Life happens

 Plans can change unexpectedly 

Sometimes, we have to accept it gracefully and continue our planned way.

Well, it’s better that way.

Nothings gonna change my world, as the song goes

Be happy, healthy, contented, and grateful 

Dignity and stupidity

 When you are so stupid to be naive and let your guard down, even the closest ones will step on your head

So, maybe it’s better to STFU and act cool

Don’t let anyone know what you are thinking or what your intentions are. Give conflicting but strong signals

Confuse them

Be firm when protecting your parents honor and dignity

 This is not negotiable 

You stand fucking firm on your stance

If someone, especially someone who you are not close to, shows disrespect to your parent, and your parent keeps quiet for your sake, you better stand firm and protect their dignity. It’s your duty.

Don’t let anyone step on you 

Your manners must match your job

 At least put in effort to contain your trap

Financial knowledge or common sense

 https://www.asiaone.com/singapore/man-loses-life-savings-becomes-taxi-driver?utm_source=a1home&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=a1trendingc&utm_content=x2

Which one?

I think it’s common sense 

You sell the roof over your head and your family of four. 

The $100k+ comes in

You feel loaded 

You jumped into a investment, $95k in

Zero diversification 

Super risky 

Online acquaintance, such a coincidence to show up right after your HDB sales proceeds lands in your hands

Bro, where is your common sense?

You left a job instead to accepting a lower pay to take a break for your medical issues. 

Then you went to start your own business (without solving your issues)

Then you sold your place

WTF

And you ask for crowdfunding 

Make your own decisions

 Don’t anyhow give up choices and decisions without thinking ahead of what you are going to lose

Don’t just say “I’ll go with whatever you decide” especially on matters that are very hard to reverse. You will lose control that will be impossible to get back.

You may think it doesn’t impact you, and you could be right. But think harder. It could impact those you care.

So, make your intentions and wishes clear. Don’t leave it to others. Don’t succumb to pressure to make a hasty decision. 

Worse is, don’t give up the choice to make a choice. 

Expect a circus if you hang with clowns

 Got this from a book I am reading now

So true

While I tried to keep in touch with friends since I have time in hand during retirement, it has come to me that no all are worth it.

It’s not their fault, it’s more on my choice on who to spend time with

I need to be careful on how I spend my precious freedom hours

I know someone I definitely do not want to engage unnecessarily especially face to face and definitely not 1:1

I tried it again recently, and oh how stupid I felt after that. To have wasted my time and his.

1.5 hours of chatting and it wasn’t pleasant for me. Left a bitter taste. I even had to almost tell him off at one point. Which I rarely do at all to friends. 

So now I know, I’ll not engage him again. He definitely has the talents to pissed me off (and others too based on my common sense)

I don’t have to change him. All I have to do is to change myself, change my selection of who to spend time with 

Easy! 

No more clowns. Humor is ok, funny is ok. But no clowns in life. Real clowns to me. 

Last journey of life

 Seeing someone struggling to breathe

Bedridden 

Unable to communicate clearly

How long does one want to be in this state if he or she knows the body will not recover and therefore the end is inevitable and soon? 

It’s a pain for both departing and those living 

It’s life

No right or wrong

Cherish our ability to move

To talk

To listen

To think 

What is singlish

Personally, it refers to the special terms that we tend to use, that efficiently and effectively expresses a meaning and intent in a way that makes you feel part of a community 

It is NOT when you speak and switch between languages whenever you feel like it, without any logic except being lazy. It’s horrible 

Try listening to someone talking this way, you will be very put off. Put off by the laziness and nonchalant attitude of the person when it comes to communicating. The person might have good intentions, but refuses to put effort into ensuring the messages are communicated in a clear and respectful manner

It’s one thing to use singlish terms but it’s another to simply switch to any language based on your own convenience 

It gives me a headache. 

I rather you use broken English peppered with singlish and Chinese terms, then you to use both broken English and Chinese in a 50/50 random split 

“Do you understand?”

“我不想去看电影”

This ain’t singlish 

This is plain laziness ending up forming a very very bad habit 

A habit that is hard to change

But causes tremendous damage

You get frustrated when people don’t want to listen to what you are trying to convey across, even if you are really making a good point about something. People will just shut you off because they find it very frustrating to try to decipher what you say, and probably felt offended by how you communicated, as it comes across as self centered and rude. Why self centered? It’s because you pick and choose how to say it based on purely your convenience in terms of how little mental bandwidth you want it allocate to speaking out the words. You don’t care how the other party hear those words. You totally outsource the understanding of your intent to your listener, making no effort to make your speech easy to understand. And it’s a vicious cycle. 

You get misunderstood 

And then you get more flustered 

And you run out of time 

And you speak even faster

And you code switch even more 

Then everything breaks down

So, don’t misunderstood this as Singlish

singlish is a class on its own

It’s a very short, sweet, straight to the point, humorous way to communicate. It’s not meant to be rude

It’s not meant to be casual to the point where you don’t care 

retirement vs no job

 People talk, especially older generations

They don't understand investments and passive income. 

All they know is you have to keep working until you cannot work

And then you retire with whatever you have saved up in your CPF and bank account and spread it over your remaining lifespan and wish yourself luck

So, when I said I am retired at 50, they look incredulous

What do you do in your free time? 

(not asked, but deep in thoughts) Got enough money meh? Need your wife to support you? Oh my, poor wife

LOLOLOL

I don't mind the entertainment, so I thought

But if this keeps ringing and also getting broadcasted, I am not happy

Because of the questions that will be asked, the assumptions, and maybe the looks on my loved ones, as if they are suffering

WTF

Also, don't ever tell them about your injuries. They will bring it up every chance they have. Make you feel like a handicap. 

Retirement means I enjoy my life

I am not an idiot , maybe I am, but don't think I am one

So don't think you are smarter

Don't gossip