Videos on how the flash floods are taking lives in Nepal are appalling
The power of nature overwhelms easily everything in its path
RIP to the departed and best wishes for the survivors
It’s heartbreaking
It’s also a stark reminder of how good we have it here
We must cherish our time
I can’t get over it.
We agreed, and I double checked to make sure you understood
Then we proceed to act accordingly to our agreed plans
Then the agreement fell apart.
Why
It’s not a game
You know it’s important to me or you don’t know? Or you pretend to don’t know?
How can this be treated lightly ?
It has such a huge impact on me. I almost couldn’t function.
I couldn’t focus on work
It’s like my trust has been abused
I don’t have defenses against something like this happening as I never thought it will happen
That’s why it broke me
It’s been about 2 years since
But it’s like yesterday
So fresh it’s the wound
It didn’t heal
Still bleeds
It’s like a black hole
No light
its happening again
Nothing was wrong with life
but why
I seem to think I got it
I guess its the lack of closeness
the lack of talking
each day, just be on our phones, on our earphones until we sleep
and then I started feeling resentful
resentful of what I need to do in the next 1-2 years
resentful because I know its going to eat a chunk of me when I do that, and its a big sacrifice, and yet my intuition and past experiences tell me that this will be a sacrifice in vain. I will be suffering for no good reason and I am thus wasting my life
I know even after doing this big thing, it's not going to matter, because it's only big to me. Its not important to others
No one will know my pain
I want to leave, but I can't bear to
its a struggle
its like a dead end
I felt lethargic for a good part of past 2 weeks, mostly due to recovery from coughing and a bad tummy.
I know I was on recovery path, but it felt that it dragged its feet.
So I decided to go for a weekday morning bike ride at ECP, when the glorious morning sun is out from 9am
I rode for over 1.4 hours
It was a slow and leisure ride, with some stops to enjoy the scenery given its a week day and the path I took was really empty
Guess what? I was so refreshed for the rest of the day and the next few days!
wow!
I think baking in the sun for 1-2 hours does wonders for our health, both physically and mentally
Of course I will not go crazy and overboard, given that I don't like sunscreen/block and thus would not want to risk skin damage/cancer
While I am active, running and cycling every week, those are mostly during evenings or before morning sun is out
So from now on, I must make it a point to do a day of 9am run/walk/cycle to soak in some vitamin D (VD! lol )
I am happy
My kids are definitely on a trajectory that is good and likely to exceed mine
Not in terms of just finances, though that should be too given that I am setting up a good example :D
But in terms of maturity at their ages, sensibility and most importantly, ability to be critical in thinking
If anything, this is what I will be most proud of in my life.
I will continue to devote my resources and time and effort to support them in this path.
Now when I drive, i pretend I am the transporter 😆
No I am not reckless
Conversely, I drive as smooth as possible
No sudden braking, no sudden acceleration
Avoid pot holes
Give way and keep and safe distance
There’s a lot of satisfaction in doing it
It’s like a form of pride
Pride of your craft
I am not a taxi driver
But if i am one, i will drive this way
Why?
Because I will want the best comfortable and safe and smooth but yet fast journey for my customer
I feel it makes a big difference
I can feel my passengers enjoying my smooth driving
I want to be known as a good driver
Not a slow one
But a fast, smooth driver
That makes you feel safe and excited and secured
I am in my 3rd marital home and this will be so for another 2yrs plus before we moved to the 4th one.
Each home we owned and lived in has immense memories for us as a family.
Happy times will be remembered
Through photos of celebrations and joys and daily life taken in each apartment while we were there
It costs nothing to preserve these in videos and photos so I take as much as I can.
Pretty sure these will be useful when I am old like in my 80s, when I am mostly home based and have lots of time to reminisce lol
Some people will so very attached to a home and refuse to move. I am not that type.
To me, a home is a phase. Once the phase is past, we move on.
I don’t forget the home.
But I do want to make sure my kids can remember these homes
Been feeling under weather these few days
I think it started from some stomachaches last week which has since cleared up
I am eating well but there’s a lingering feeling of being sick.
No fever
I decided to skip my jogging today to rest well
Age is catching up for sure but I think I am doing well. Regular exercise and good diet. More importantly must manage my stress level.
Yes don’t get stressed or worked up over small things in life .
Life is good. Enjoy
Maybe I ate too much sushi for lunch lah lol
Greedy pig uncle
This is coming from real personal experience lol
Do house work.
Dust off things
make the beds nicely, change fresh sheets
Tidy up the desks of your kids
Arrange items that are on tables neatly. Go full OCD mode
Don't rush, take your time. Clean and observe the things
You will gain a new form appreciation of what's going on at home
You can get some level of accomplishments
Either way, there is only positive feelings from doing it.
Just don't go tire yourself or injure yourself doing very heavy things
When I wash my washrooms weekly, I don't just clean mindlessly. I clean intentionally. I make sure all corners are covered
I made sure places are kept dry
I made sure the glass and mirrors are shiny
I take note of stocks, like shampoo, toilet paper, toothpaste, handwashing liquid etc
I take note of wear and tear
These will then generate a list of to do to keep me busy
This isn't like a typical housewife/husband doing chores. These are not chores to me
This is me upkeeping the most important place, my home, for myself and my loved ones. What could be more important than this, especially now that I am retired and have time on my hand to focus on it?
Having a clean, well maintained, efficient, neat home does wonders for everyone.
When my son comes home from a long day in school, tired and sweaty, a clean desk and made bed definitely feels like a fresh start again
Running a home isn't that hard. It's only hard if you pile into it too many things that require a lot of maintenance work.
To me, the 2 biggest things that consumes time for a home are :
Cooking
House keeping
I don't have to cook, so it's just housekeeping.
I use high quality appliances so they do their job well and they don't break down easily and they are also easy to maintain. Having to worry about breaking appliances and replacing them is not fun. I spend top $ for good washer, dryer, fridge, etc etc. These things are expensive but they are a joy to use and they last a long time as long you take care of them. They are also pleasing to look at if you keep them clean.
I don't have a lot of display shelves. Those are time suckers, They collect a lot of dust.
I throw, recycle, pass on, things that I no longer need or use, so I don't need to store them and then carry the mental load of remembering I have them somewhere in my storeroom. Lesser is better and its true
I am not minimalist
So, if you are bored, look at your home and find something to clean and tidy and fix. You won't be bored
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