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I have nothing to do

 Now, that's a statement that can be made by anyone. I say that when I was still working I say that now that I am retired But it has a very different meaning Before retirement, saying you have nothing to do is probably born out of boredom that comes from too many things to want to try with too little time, where time is so short that its not enough to even do one thing. With retirement and all the flexible time on hand, say you have nothing to do can still come from boredom, but it's a a different kind.  With all the time on hand, you are limited by mostly the resources (mostly money lah) you have, as well as, if you are old fart like me, also limited by what your stiff joints and dwindling muscle mass allows. So that naturally cuts down, from a theoretical unlimited list of things to a more reasonable list of things you can do. And with all the time on hand, you can do all of it! But you can still say you have nothing to do when someone asks what you are doing now. It's a ...

watching your kids grow

when you have kids, you gave dilemma  Why With the ease of digital media, parents have easy access to all the videos and photos of their kids since the day they were born.  This is double edged Yes, the ease of retrieval of old photos and videos is nice, especially when you want to reminisce the cute times. But have we thought about the impact of our behaviour on our still growing kids? How do they actually feel when their parents keep showing them their cute photos as babies and toddlers? Will they feel that their present form is no longer as appealing to their parents? Will they think their parents are just happy when they were babies? As parents, the time and energy we expend on looking at old media meant we lose time and energy to appreciate the "present" form of our kids. its ironic, but we end up taking lesser and lesser videos and photos.  Yes, babies and toddlers are cute, but so are teens and young adults kids! Let's not abuse the tech we have at the detriment of...

poor and rich vs happy and unhappy

Now, if someone who has no worries whatsoever on their living expenses and material life, comes and tell me they are unhappy with life and has so many issues and feel so down...I cannot understand it on surface.  But I can also understand it. Why? We all need our basic needs, think safe home, food, clothes, internet, entertainment.  If you don't have basic needs, you will be miserable most of the time, but you can try keep your mood up sometimes with positive thinking. But you will generally still be unhappy. Once you have your basic needs (so some) covered, you have a baseline of happiness that you can hit easily. But the human mind is never satisfied. You will now have time and energy to find faults with things. The food isn't so good, your home isn't that nice, your spouse isn't good enough etc etc. So, to the unhappy and miserable rich man....how about you give away all your riches and go back to working for others? And then find happiness from that position?  Or yo...

Completion of career

 Acknowledging this is important to my mind to properly move to next phase which is retirement (or anything other than corporate) My career is completed. Just like my life as a student in school was completed. You can say it is the end of career but that sounds pretty sad. Completion is better word. Time to fly 

What eats you

Something eats you Something eats you What is it What is it  What the fuck is it What the fucking hell is it  What eats you Slow and steadily  Without fail Without giving up Will finally consume you 

Echo chamber

 When you are retired, especially young, most of your friends and your spouse will still be working. So you will be alone most of time during weekdays day time. What do you do?  You can do exercise, you can read, you can just while time away on social media. You can also journal But you must remember to put sometime to learn new things, albeit without pressure or stress. Why? You need to expand your brain if not it will close up. It will become an echo chamber, reflecting to itself things it already know for years. Nothing new  It’s like an AI model that isn’t given updated data to train. It can guess the next step word based on initial training, and those words could be fed back into it but how good will that be? It will not know new inventions by others that came up after its initial training. No corrections to errors earlier So, please learn something new  Simple ones, even basic foreign languages, or new terms and words in native/working language. Exercise and ex...