As we grow into adulthood and beyond, life naturally becomes more complex, no matter how you look at it. Your job becomes more complicated, demanding and stressful as your income grows. You have more things to deal with at home, kids growing up, grinding for stressful exams, spouse also needing more attention due to work stress and health, aging parents needed extra care, peers/friends having more complex issues in their own lives.
How to stray on track and stay sane?
I feel we should keep life as simple as possible. Only when things are as simple as they can be, will they be manageable to some extent.
If you and your spouse are aligned and loving, then be 100% committed to each other, and be absolutely defensive of your commitments to each other, giving zero chance for others to step in. The only lust you have is for each other, no one else. Of course objectively, there will be nicer bodies, more sexy people out that whom may seem interested in you or look very available and easy to fall in love with. But ask yourself, is that even called love? Your wife is the one who went through childbirth to give you children. She lives with you, she sees everything you do. Your best and worst sides are seen by her and she is still in love with you and committed to you. No one outside will do that for you. They just want to have fun with your best side, your fun side, with your resources that were accumulated as a result of you having a loving partner and home as motivation. Once you resources are depleted, you will no longer be interesting to others. They will hunt another target. There are such people. So keep it simple, stay committed and dedicated to your spouse. This is simple instruction to follow isn't it? Not east to follow, but simple. And it keeps your life simple, because you only have to deal with 1 person, and there are no lies, no hiding, no guilt. You can stand tall and do other things in life with confidence. This adds to your success, sustainable success.
If you have children, stay committed to provide for them. This simple rule then drives all your financial and career decisions, and also drives your decisions to take care of yourself.
If you have aging parents, start committed to provide for them as they go into golden years and live out their remaining lives. You owe them this, but you also don't have to give up everything for them. This will let you live peacefully, and also age peacefully without regrets when they pass on. That peace is priceless.
Last thing : strive to live your best life for yourself. Enjoy it. No need to be paiseh. You want something, go for it. (of course it must not hurt someone and it must not be illegal lah!). Want to try a new food or diet, sure! Want to pick up new form of exercise routine, sure! Want to have a new hair style, sure! Want to try a new bed activity position, sure! lol
See? There is no need to over complicate your life, which is already complicated and complex by itself as it goes along. Stay simple, and it drives focus and clarity, and you can handle anything. And this flywheel comes back to help you stay focus and have clarity, and it repeats and reinforces itself.
Wishing everyone a good life.
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