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The need to show off

Why do we all feel the need to show off? I am guilty of it too.

Telling your friends how expensive your holiday is, complaining it while in reality your intention is to show off how you are going to spend so much

Offering a ride to friends or colleagues when they don’t even ask for it or already said they can uber. In reality you just want to show off your new fancy car.

Positing photos of nice things.

I have been trying very hard to restrain it myself but still fail sometimes. 

Nowadays, Uncle seldom post anything in uncle’s FB page anymore. No more “check in” at airport telling everyone I am taking a flight to somewhere. No more posting happy photos of me and family going on a vacation, celebrating a birthday. No more up close photos posts of new gadgets I got. I still do those actual things but I just tell myself to not post to FB about it. IG? I do post there more but mostly on foods and sceneries. TBH, after a while, I feel better for it. I no longer felt compelled to post an update about my life to let others know. That felt free. Free from expectations of others. And TBH, most people don’t care. Who cares if you are celebrating your son’s 10th BD, who cares about your 25th wedding anniversary, who cares that you went some fancy expensive place for vacation? No one. None. Zero. They may comment, like or react to your posts. But that doesn’t mean much. In fact you are just inviting envies and gossips. So you lose in the end. So why spend effort and time to curate an ideal post? Just stop. It’s better.

It’s better to keep things close to your chest. Don’t show your cards. Don’t lie, but just don’t share unless asked. You keep your sanity and retain/gain trust and respect. Do you trust a showy person, a loud mouth person? Or a reserved, steadfast, knows what he wants, real person? 

You can watch others posts and consume the contents to keep abreast of happenings. But you don’t have to post. Silence is golden. 

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