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joy of working, really?

When you are facing health issues, and need to take time off to nurse, go for procedure, rest and recover, it's normal to worry about what happens to the work you dropped. 

But you are on medical leave, you need rest. Ideally you should do that, and not worry about work and definitely not go read your emails, and attend any calls. 

But in the real world, you may not be able to do this. 

But it's still important to chart your course by thinking about what are your priorities. Is any work above your own health, right now and into the future?

If you ignore the signs, neglect recovery time, and think you can pull through fine, it could be a huge mistake. You are sowing the seeds for a future wrought of ill health, conditions that will burst out into your life at the worse possible times, e.g. just when you think you are ready to retire and enjoy life. Our body needs care and attention, especially when we age. It's not a machine Heck, even a machine needs maintenance to continue functioning properly! 

So, when you do the above, and think you can skip some steps, all in the sake of "work", think again. Not only you are definitely raising the probability of future suffering for yourself, you are also selfishly dragging your loved ones lives along into this future fucked up mess. And it's very selfish and unfair, especially if your spouse worked hard to keep a healthy life, while you recklessly throw yours away. You will live, but will you be healthy or bed ridden or wheelchair bound due to health issues? Yes, some issues are unavoidable, but if you had not taken care of yourself, chances are that your future issues will be attributed to your recklessness, especially from the POV of your caregivers, who then have to use their lifetime to deal with you, even though they had been responsible enough to take care of themselves when young. So, think of your loved ones. You are not the only one suffering should your health fails. I am pretty sure if you had taken care of yourself to your best ability, and still fall prey to some unfortunate condition, your loved ones will not hesitate to nurse you. After all, you already did your best to take care right?

So, if you are sick, don't work. Leave your phone on and tell your colleagues you need to rest, but will be a phone call or text message away for emergencies. TBH, there are very few real emergencies at work, short of you getting laid off. You can fall into a coma for 2 months, and the company and your colleagues will still be functioning fine. You are not as indispensable as you think! 

End of day, if you are an adult, you will likely not take such advice seriously, since you are an adult and you make your own fucking mind. But remember, you may not be ready to accept that future and the outcomes. And it will be too late. 

Love yourself, there is no joy in work TBH. Work is to earn resources to survive and leave a good life. Not to give up your life. Remember 



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