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 Which phase of this cycle are you on? Just born into this world? Growing up and enjoying carefree childhood? Getting educated be ready for the world? Completed education and going to make your mark in this world? Found a partner and settled down? Got a home and started to have babies? Kids growing up and driving you mad? Getting worried about losing your job? Lost your job? Getting ready to retire? Watching your kids become parents and growing old? Having more and more health issues due to old age? Suddenly found you have a terminal condition like cancer? Going though physical pain and mental torture as you go through treatment and having a view of end of tunnel? Personally, that last phase is scary to me, but I know it will be inevitable. Key is to live a full life the way I want it before I hit this last phase, so I can tell myself by then "no regrets! this is it, last leg liao, but I have done most if not all the things I need. Awesome life. Just have to grind through this las...

As men, we are pre-programmed to fix things when they are (or appear to be) broken. This can range from the leaky tap, the poor Wifi coverage in the apartment, but can also be relationships. I think this program allows us to shine as providers and protectors, ensuring the home is safe to live in, the car is safe to commute in, the fridge keeps the food from going bad, the washing machine able to keep our clothes clean etc.  However, certain things can't be fixed, as they are beyond our control (even if we naively think otherwise). And that is what stresses men out. A lot. And most of the time, these things are tied to relationships. It could be the bad vibes between your wife and your parents. Or that between you and your in-laws. We tend to want to "fix" these things, but end of day, recognising these are not fixable is the key to living a happier life, at least for yourself.  Being able to do that will also likely allow you to be happier no matter how your children turn...

 As we grow into adulthood and beyond, life naturally becomes more complex, no matter how you look at it. Your job becomes more complicated, demanding and stressful as your income grows. You have more things to deal with at home, kids growing up, grinding for stressful exams, spouse also needing more attention due to work stress and health, aging parents needed extra care, peers/friends having more complex issues in their own lives.  How to stray on track and stay sane? I feel we should keep life as simple as possible. Only when things are as simple as they can be, will they be manageable to some extent.  If you and your spouse are aligned and loving, then be 100% committed to each other, and be absolutely defensive of your commitments to each other, giving zero chance for others to step in. The only lust you have is for each other, no one else. Of course objectively, there will be nicer bodies, more sexy people out that whom may seem interested in you or look very availa...

Not too bad. STI ATH, so naturally this feels good. I just don't want it to go up too fast, since that's going to run ahead of the fundamentals and crash later.  Total S$1,302,053 as of 11 Aug 2025

In our competitive society, there is always ranking. It's not just the gold/silver/bronze medals ranks during sports day. It's about the academic ranking in schools. Who are the top 3 in class. Who are the top 10 in the entire school for this level etc. Personally, I don't have any aversion to such rankings. It's something to work towards and focus your efforts on. I was lucky to do well in studies and thus had the joy of being in top 3, top 10 rankings in my school years for many occasions. Likewise for some running events, where I managed to go into top 10 in 2 years during my secondary years. However, I never experienced being ranked number 1. Yes, number Uno.  Now thinking back to these yesteryears of chasing rankings, I just realised I never got to 1 before. Now, is that important? Maybe, maybe not.  But I wonder how it would had felt, or more importantly, what impact it would had on my life if I had hit the top spot a few times.  Would it be a lonely thing? Would ...