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have your own little safe space

 Whenever I feel unsafe at home, I go away for a while. It's better than to stay around and create more tension or let the issue start morphing into other issues. 

Maybe it's like escaping, but we all need an escape valve, to realise tension. Some can take cold showers, eat comfort food, jerk off, punch a bag, but for me, I prefer to go away for a while to my safe space. It could be as simple as drive on the highway (no speeding), or going to a park to walk, and put on my AirPods to listen to my favourite songs.

Will it resolve the issue? Nope, but it gives it a pause. 

Many issues cannot be resolved so easily. That's life. But we can find ways to manage them so they don't become worser than they need to be. 

Of course I want to resolve all issues. Man are fixers right? 

That's why we are so stressed out lol.

Anyway, life isn't perfect and it's futile to expect a perfect life, where you feel you have to have a life that is like what others are showing you. Come on, if you have 50 friends, and you only see them for a short fraction of time (in person or on social media), you are seeing their best. So 50x that and project that expectation/standard onto your own life....how is that realistic?? You will be forever miserable trying to measure to something that each of your friends aren't even hitting. 

So be ok with perfectly imperfect life. Just don't screw it up intentionally

Keep a little safe space for yourself. 

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