watching your kids grow

when you have kids, you gave dilemma

Why

With the ease of digital media, parents have easy access to all the videos and photos of their kids since the day they were born.

This is double edged

Yes, the ease of retrieval of old photos and videos is nice, especially when you want to reminisce the cute times. But have we thought about the impact of our behaviour on our still growing kids?

How do they actually feel when their parents keep showing them their cute photos as babies and toddlers?

Will they feel that their present form is no longer as appealing to their parents?

Will they think their parents are just happy when they were babies?

As parents, the time and energy we expend on looking at old media meant we lose time and energy to appreciate the "present" form of our kids.

its ironic, but we end up taking lesser and lesser videos and photos.

Yes, babies and toddlers are cute, but so are teens and young adults kids!

Let's not abuse the tech we have at the detriment of staying in the now with our kids.

Build that bond, regardless of tech improvement. The newest phone, gadgets etc will keep coming, but the time spent with kids won't show up again if we miss it

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